Those of you who’ve been following me for a while now will know that I didn’t graduate from uni. Never mind graduate, I didn’t go at all. For more on my career journey, read this post. University isn’t for everyone. I’m a big advocate of that, obviously! However, loads of my friends went to uni and loved it. The parties, the new friends, the learning too, I guess. And now most of them have graduated, and it’s time to navigate the scary adult world.
This isn’t my area of expertise, and it’s where my blog girls are going to help me out. Welcome to uni Mondays: a mini series of blog posts coming out in September to help you get ready for life pre, post or during uni. Let me know what you think in a comment below or on instagram @wheresmollie, and if you like the content maybe we can extend it past September! This post is from Robyn…
I remember the nerves and excitement during the lead up to graduation. It was more of a bittersweet feeling. University was some form of a security blanket for me and leaving behind the idea of comfort was both scary and nerve wrecking. When it comes to making the next big decision, it’s hard to say what’s around the corner from that. Let’s just say leaving university is a huge adjustment in every aspect of life. Everything changes. No more midweek partying, a lot less comfort, and endless planning to catch up with friends. But that doesn’t mean it is all bad, right?
Fast forward one whole year and after graduating from a four year medical degree I can say I’ve definitely learned a few life lessons. With new jobs, moving away and general life demands staying in contact with your uni friends is difficult. From new internships to night shifts and long distance it can absolutely put a strain on finding time for them, but just know that it will be okay. Communication is key and booking them into your diary far in advance will stop the friendship from fizzling out. I 100% believe you make life-long friendships in college because let’s face it, they’ve probably seen you at your worst after a night out and still love you for it.
With that being said, be open to making new friends too. You’re going to cross paths with new people who are on the same wavelength as you. As we grow older we begin to search for certain values and characteristics in people. University is where you learn just that. Believe me, you’ll find them in the most unexpected places. It’s also nice feeling when you have that feeling of openness when it comes to spending time with certain people.
But remember, it’s ok to have certain friends for certain periods in your life. You don’t have the mental space to keep in touch with everyone forever. Appreciate the people you have in your life now, for what they add to your life now. If people don’t add value to your life, maybe it’s time to realise that, even if you didn’t fall out, the friendship doesn’t have the same place anymore. I feel like university life required you to interact with people who weren’t always on your wavelength. Now the choice is yours. Be mindful and aware of the energy you let into your life.
Just when you think you’ve gotten a grasp on the whole uni life thing, it finishes and you have to start again. For three to four years your goal was to get to the end of that assignment, pass that exam, and ultimately, graduate. Now you have to re-evaluate. The beginning of something new is exciting and the idea of climbing towards a new goal is both exhilarating and motivating. The majority of graduates will either jump straight into a graduate programs, new jobs or start travelling. Either way, there are ladders to be climbed and new goals to be reached. Choose something you want to achieve, and do everything in your power to get there.
Some people finish their degree in a subject that they love and continue to stay in that field for a really long time, if not forever. But, let’s face it, there is a high percentage of graduates that end up working in a discipline different from their degree. Don’t think because you studied science that you absolutely have to work in the field of science. This is a time for you to venture into something new and start exploring your options. Just because your path may be a little different, it doesn’t mean you’re lost.
After graduating from Biomedical Science I decided that I wasn’t ready to commit to a full time career in science and it lead me to one of the best opportunities EVER. Just remember – because you’ve ventured into a career that is unrelated to your degree doesn’t mean you won’t be as successful.